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This is not about basketball. This is about a situation between your relationship with someone else.

What is a rebound in a relationship?

I asked 2 persons who have the experience to rebound someone else or be a rebound.

Let's start with my friend whom he rebound someone else. (I was in shocked that he did that)But nevertheless, we should find out why?

For the first person that I interviewed (Let's name him Jace)

So, Jace says that rebound for him is about getting attached to someone because you were hurt from your past and that is why you need that someone to patch that (for the meantime) but not really falling in love with that person.

But most of the time, having an attachment to someone (that you thought it would not really get into you was kinda 50/50) WHAT AM I SAYING?

Most of the time people who did this tend to fall in love in the end. BUT.... this falling in love thingy was being expressed or shown when the unwanted event started. When he/she already knew that you only use him or her for your own sake.

This is one of the consequences that a person who rebound someone else tend to encounter with.
He shares with me how he feels as time passed by, as he discovers this girl. Have a long conversation with this girl.

HE FALLS IN LOVE TO HER. 

I asked him if he thinks what he did was right? (Of course, it's a big NO)
He said, "What I did was wrong because fooling someone, especially a girl wasn't right. It is not also good to make her feel like you love her. Because girls are to be taken care of, to cherish and to be given true love and that is what I feel about her."

I asked him again if there is any positive thing that you might receive by making someone a rebound?
He said, "Yes, I get to know her and I fall in love with her."

HOW ABOUT THE ONE WHO IS BEING REBOUND?

Another friend of mine, (Let's name him Al).

So, Al shares with me his experience to be a rebound with the girl he really loved before (maybe up until now?). I asked Al if he did expect that this girl would do this rebounding thing to him.
He said, "I didn't. We have so many plans in the future that we talked about"

I asked him, how did this girl or maybe he builds the attachment of them and if the girl has told so many lies. He said, "I was the one who is courted (real talk). She is the one who tries to get my attention and then I fall in love with that. Yes, many."

I asked Al, what or how does it feel to be a rebound?
He said, "Of course, it hurts. It's like you do not want to live anymore. Your eyes are still dripping while sleeping.

Al and this girl last their relationship for 8 months. (That was quite a long rebound time)

Lastly, Al leaves a message for people who are doing this.

"For goodness sake, stop it. This is the reason why there are people who are scared to fall in love again" 

Did you even expect that you are being rebound? How much it hurts? I don't know how you feel, but yes it's not good to be rebound by someone you really love. It is not also good to rebound someone else, most especially if that person doesn't even do a single thing for you to have a reason to use them.

I know it hurts (it really does, but I don't know how much) THAT YOU EVEN THOUGHT HE OR SHE LOVES YOU wherein in the end, they were only using you. But nevertheless, there were relationships who started on this kind of phase of life. Started with this f*ck*ng rebound thingy.

So before THAT PERSON, you are using right NOW. THAT PERSON who makes you smile
when you even think for that happening or person that made you feel that way, that made you do this to rebound another person. (lots of person word there)

PLEASE THINK, BECAUSE, IN THE END, YOU MIGHT FALL IN LOVE WITH THEM OR 
FACE THE CONSEQUENCES (IT MAY BE POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE)

Most importantly, keep in mind that when they already know it, it might be too late.