My sister is getting near to her college life, where she could choose what program she wanted to study.
Yet there are hindrances or should I say opinions and comments that are distracting her from choosing the right path for her future.
Somewhat it already dictates her, to what she wanted to be but what they wanted her to be. It kinda saddens me to think, that this teenager can't even decide for her, for what she wanted to be in the future.
Even as her sister, I truly support her as to what program she wanted to pursue.
In this generation, most graduates in high school choose programs that have a high job rate. This is because of the factors that they have already experienced like poverty, discrimination, racism, insecurities, and the achievements of your family, which gave them quite a pressure.
Well, we can't blame the parents, it is hard to find a job nowadays.
But that doesn't mean that a parent should force his or her child to study the program that she doesn't want.
Maybe... or Sometimes, this is applicable for teenagers who haven't realized or think about what they wanted to pursue. And that they may try out what their parents suggest.
Opinions from the elders are really helpful. They may guide you on what path will you choose.
I'm not writing this or posting this to hate this kind of scenario with your family (especially to my family). But as time goes by, I realized the pressure that my sister is going through, because I have been to that kind of pressure before. What University will I be? What program will I choose?
So, when I have failed the program (Bachelor of Science in Accountancy) my mother didn't push me to pursue it anymore. Instead, they let me decide what program to choose (But I do not intend to fail that major subject; DO not fail the course or program that your parent chose for you).
So... Is this just for the elders? No, it is also for you, try to talk to your parents, to your family (there's nothing wrong about it)
Well, some parents are really fixed when it comes to deciding what program or path their child needs to pursue. Factors like irresponsibility, laziness and you can't even respect your parents (sometimes they just like to decide for you, because of the pressure that the family is getting into or the orientation in the family that get affected by their achievements)
Does this guarantee a job after I graduate? These are the questions that come up to my mind right then.
Some of the members in my family, wanted me to pursue the business world, like the program accountancy (which I have failed) and engineering (can't even really look at my math book).
These programs may guarantee you a job right after you graduate (but this is not 100 percent). It still depends upon the person if he or she will get a job in the future (take note of that).
You see, it is hard to be dictated of your future. You plan, you take a very long time to decide for it and then suddenly, you were put on hold (and maybe a little bit controlled). You wanted to become a painter yet your parents scolded you because they thought it will not contribute to your future.
The solution here is to really open up; open your thoughts and ideas for what you will want to be in the future and justify it or just give an opinion halfway from what they expect from you.
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